Fixations and Obsessions
Fixation – A preoccupation with one subject or object.
Have you ever become fixated upon something?
Of course you have. We all have …
Have you ever had a dog barking next door when you were trying to sleep and all you could hear was the dog barking? – over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over …
Have you ever had a co-worker or boss do something to offend you and all you could think about was how they offended you? Constantly and constantly and constantly and constantly and constantly …
Have you ever had your spouse or significant other make you mad and all you could think about was what they did to make you mad?
Those are examples of fixation.
When we refuse to let go of the object of our fixation and it continues long enough, it becomes an obsession …
Obsession – The domination of one’s thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, thought, desire, etc.
Are fixations and obsessions bad things?
Like most questions, the answer is sometimes yes and sometimes no.
It all depends on what you’re fixated or obsessed on.
If you’re fixated or obsessed on something negative that’s bad for you, then that fixation or obsession is a bad thing. Being fixated or obsessed on such things can hold us back.
If you’re fixated or obsessed on something positive that’s good for you, then that fixation or obsession is a good thing. Being fixated or obsessed on such things can actually move us forward and help us grow.
Until #5 states:
Until we start focusing on the wonderful things that are possible and stop focusing on the negative things that are holding us back, we will never achieve our maximum potential and evolve as a species.
In other words, neither fixation or obsession is inherently bad. Nor are they inherently good. They just are.
Instead what matters, is the object of that fixation or obsession.
Law #5, the Law of Focus states:
Whatever we focus our attention on expands in our lives. If one focuses on positives, then positives will occur in their life. If one focuses on negatives, then negatives will occur in one’s life. Consequently, the ability to focus on the most important task at hand is the key to success.
If we focus on the dark barking, that’s all we’re going to hear.
If we focus on our boss offending us, we’re never going to stop being offended.
If we focus on our spouse or significant other making us mad, we’re always going to be mad at them.
So what’s the answer?
The answer is to change our focus.
Stop focusing on that which mad us mad or offended us or is bothering us.
Instead, focus on that which makes us happy; on that which makes us proud; on that which makes us feel good.
Stop focusing on the negative past. Start focusing on the positive future that is possible.
Benefit #5 states:
By incorporating Law #5 – The Law of Focus into our lives, we will be creating a society that focuses on the positive things that are possible and one that stops focusing on the negative things that hold us back.
The next time that dog next door won’t stop barking, go meditate and focus on quietness instead.
The next time your boss offends you, remember the time he/she gave you a raise.
The next time your spouse or significant other makes you mad, remember how much you love them.
If you change your focus, your life will change.
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